If you’re going through a divorce, you may have to deal with a manipulative ex. Unfortunately, some people use manipulative tactics during a divorce to get what they want. If you’re dealing with this type of behavior, it’s important to know how to respond.

Understanding Manipulation In a Divorce

Understanding common manipulation tactics and behaviors is a good start to protecting yourself during your divorce.

One manipulative tactic that is often used during divorces is gaslighting. Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person seeks to sow doubt in another person’s mind. For example, your spouse may try to convince you that you are being paranoid or that you are imagining things that are not happening.

Another common manipulative tactic is emotional blackmail. This occurs when one spouse tries to control the other by threatening to withdraw love or support unless they get what they want. For example, your spouse might give you silent treatment or threaten not to give you affection unless you agree to do what they’re asking.

Your Next Move

Start keeping copies of all communication with your spouse if you aren’t already doing so. Whenever possible, get everything in writing so there is no room for misunderstanding. It can also help you track patterns in their behavior and better prepare yourself for future interactions. This includes emailing or texting any agreements you reach so there is a record of what was agreed upon.

It can also be helpful to talk to a therapist or counselor who can help you understand what is happening and how to best deal with it. Try keeping a journal so you can look back on it and see patterns.

Consult With a Family Law Firm Now

Before making any decisions, consult with a lawyer so you understand all of your legal options. A lawyer will also be able to spot any manipulative behavior and can gather evidence of the manipulation so that it can be used as part of your case and help ensure that you receive a fair settlement in your divorce case.

Contact veteran Naples, FL divorce lawyer Kevyn Noonan Hayes, P.A. for more information about navigating the process of getting a divorce or to book an initial consultation with Attorney Hayes to discuss your case. Call now by dialing 239-591-6248 or filling out our short online contact form and we’ll get right back to you.