The most dangerous point in an abusive relationship is when the victim decides to leave. When this involves divorce, things can get ugly fast. These steps can help you and your family stay protected as you take the necessary steps to get out of a violent and harmful marriage.

Start Earning Your Own Money

If you’re currently not working, one of the first things you should do is to get a job or find another way to earn your own income.

But you may need to do this secretly if your spouse is very controlling. Try to hide some of your money where your spouse can’t access it until you have enough saved back to safely leave.

Gather Important Documents

Getting your own apartment, starting your own bank account, and putting your kids in a different school all require documents that your spouse may not allow you to access once they know you’re leaving.

Before you break the news, make sure you have original copies of all birth certificates, social security cards, proof of income, insurance policies, and evidence of the abuse in a safe place outside the home.

Consider Going To A Shelter

The thought of going to a domestic violence shelter is frightening, but it may be your best option. The people who work at shelters have experience getting victims and their children out of abusive situations safely and can offer you protection that you might not otherwise have. Many shelters offer safe houses, jobs, childcare, and other resources that can help you while you’re getting back on your feet.

Change Your Phone Number & Social Media Accounts

After you leave, make sure you’re no longer using the same phone number, social media profiles, or anything else that could be used to track your whereabouts or online activity. Seek a protective order if possible so you can press charges against your spouse if they do happen to find you or threaten your family.

How A Florida Divorce Attorney Can Help You Leave Your Violent Marriage

Getting out of an abusive marriage is extraordinarily difficult – you need support and resources you can trust. Kevyn Noonan Hayes, P.A. can help you plan ahead and navigate the process. Call now for your free consultation at 239-591-6248.